The Power of Decisiveness: Trusting Yourself to Choose

I’ve always been the kind of person who wants to get to the bottom of things. To say that I like to understand is an understatement. For me, understanding is a form of love. 

When we understand someone or something, we form a connection with it. We see its truth. And because people often fear what they don’t understand, I’ve always resisted uncertainty. Unclear things feel unsettling because they leave space for doubt.

But here’s a truth I’ve learned along the way: an indecision is a decision.

Indecision is Still a Choice

Every single day, we’re faced with decisions, some big, some small. What to eat, what career move to make, whether to stay or leave, whether to say yes or no. Sometimes, the choice is obvious. Other times, we get stuck. We stall, we weigh the options, we overthink. And in the hesitation, we believe we’re avoiding making a decision. But the truth is, not choosing is a choice; it’s a choice to remain where you are.

The psychology behind this is clear: indecision drains energy. Our minds loop, replay scenarios, and keep us stuck in “what ifs.” Action, on the other hand, creates momentum. Even if the decision isn’t perfect, moving forward builds confidence and resilience.

The Myth of the “Right” Choice

Here is the trap: so many of us wait for the “perfect” choice. We hesitate because we’re terrified of making the wrong move. But in reality, there isn’t a single “right” path; there is the path you choose, and what you learn from it.

Some of the most successful people in the world are decisive. Oprah Winfrey, for example, often talks about how she learned to trust her gut and take leaps even when things weren’t clear. Steve Jobs made countless decisions that seemed risky in the moment, but each shaped the future of Apple. Elon Musk has repeatedly acted quickly and boldly, knowing not every idea would succeed, but understanding that movement creates opportunity.

The common thread? They don’t waste time in limbo. They decide, they act, and if it doesn’t go as planned, they adapt. That’s what makes them resilient.

Decisions Build Self-Trust

On a psychological level, every time you make a decision, you reinforce self-trust. You tell your brain, I can count on myself to act. This builds confidence over time. On the other hand, chronic indecision erodes self-trust because you begin to believe you can’t handle choices or their consequences.

The astrology supports this, too. Certain placements, like Libra or Pisces (sorry, my Libra and Pisces friends, you know it’s true!), may naturally struggle with indecision because they see so many perspectives. But that’s also their gift: they have the ability to weigh things carefully. The key is to recognize when reflection turns into paralysis and to push yourself into action anyway.

Relationships and Mixed Signals

This applies to relationships as much as it does to life decisions. If someone is unsure about you, that’s their decision. Mixed signals are an answer. Don’t waste your precious energy waiting for clarity from someone who doesn’t know what they want. Their indecision is not your responsibility. Your responsibility is to protect your energy, honor your worth, and keep moving toward people and opportunities that choose you back.

My Advice: Just Do It

When I look back on my own life, the biggest shifts came from making fast, intuitive decisions. Moving to a new city, changing career paths, and even investing in my own spiritual journey, none of those decisions came with guarantees. I didn’t know if things would work out, but I trusted the pull I felt. And every single time, whether the road was smooth or bumpy, those choices brought me closer to the life I was meant to live.

If I had waited for certainty, I’d probably still be waiting.

Life rewards momentum. When you’re stuck in indecision, remember this: action brings clarity, hesitation keeps you stuck. Make the call, send the email, sign up for the class, say yes to the date, book the trip. If it works, you grow. If it doesn’t, you grow. Either way, you win.

Because the truth is, the universe meets us halfway. But we have to take the first step.